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The Official Website of  Couple's Retreat Program
"We need ... validation and acceptance that we receive only from our gendermates. There is much about our experience as men that can only be shared with, and understood by, other men. There are stories we can tell only to those who have wrestled in the dark with the same demons, and been wounded by the same angels. Only men understand the secret fears that go with the territory of masculinity." In the United States, it is estimated that approximately 15-20 percent of the population have difficulty conceiving. In these couples, male and female factors are equally accountable for the problem, and one in four couples has multiple factors contributing to their failure to conceive. Whether or not sperm factors impact the physical challenges, emotional issues between the couple most definitely impact the ability to heal and overcome fertility difficulties. The declining fertility scenario usually looks something like this: The couple begins their lives together in a state of love, hope and abundance. They decide to expand upon this process and create another. In most cases, the woman has the intense desire to start a family. The man agrees. The couple begins trying to conceive, adopting timed intercourse, which already disrupts the spontaneity of the relationship. Now lovemaking becomes purpose oriented, and the couple begins to lose each other, as the goal of their practice seems further out of reach. The woman starts to become worried, fearful, and frustrated. As she shares these concerns with her partner, he begins to feel less capable of supporting her because he doesn't have the answer. He can't fix it. She becomes more withdrawn, he can't help, and the basis of the relationship switches to one of deprivation. The harder they try to have a baby, the more the relationship suffers. She just wants a baby. He just wants his wife back.
If you are in an intimate partnership, the dynamic of the relationship can impact your ability, or inability, to accept a new life into your environment. According to Eastern philosophy, the coupling of the mother's yin with the father's yang is precisely what ignites the call to the soul of the unborn child. If there is discord in the partnership this will impact the energies that will or will not come together to create life. Couples are drawn to each other for many reasons – because of their desires, past experiences, childhood caretakers, present needs and future goals. Together, these composite aspects combine and subconsciously project onto the partner all that goes into our relationships. Each partner contributes these unconscious fragments into the relationship, which then forms the container, or ‘vessel' that will eventually house the child. When the container becomes filled with toxic debris after years of suffering through infertility, the relationship is no longer a place for loving support, but one where we tend to resent the accumulated rubble, and the ‘other' who is responsible for putting it there. In our couple's program, we work with each partner individually – to heal the obstructions of their body, mind, and soul, and within the field of the relationship. The accumulated debris becomes the fuel to transform the present relationship into a supportive container made up of the highest vibrational components (love, emotional support, creative energy) of each partner, so that together they may energetically attract the child they know they were meant to have.
Through The Fertile Soul Couple's healing process, the couple learns to communicate in a new way. The woman feels loved and supported, and the man feels like he doesn't have to take on the burden of an unfulfilling relationship and a problem that he can't fix. The men learn how to stand tall and proud in their partnership. They learn how to be supported by other couples going through the very same issues. They heal deeply, and learn to live and love again. As one man put it, "I finally have my wife back. We have our love back. How could a child have come to us when we were in such a state of constant anguish? My wife always felt a connection to a soul, and I felt like I wasn't really involved in the process. Now. I feel a whole new hope for living, loving, and inviting our child into our family." Learn more about Retreat pricing and available dates. |
The Fertile Soul ™ couple's program invites the most dramatic healing known to mend the pain resulting from "infertility" – individually and in relationship. We will begin by acknowledging that this might seem an intimidating concept, especially for the men. The men who come to The Fertile Soul couple's Process are the most courageous men we have ever met. Even through the fear and doubt, they come anyway, and leave with a whole new outlook on their lives and their relationship. They leave stronger, healthier, and more hopeful. They have found strength, 
A relationship is like a three-legged stool composed of the self, the other, and the relationship. Through infertility, it is as if this three-legged support has lost a leg, and each partner is standing alone, and the stool is in constant risk of toppling over. Infertility is one of the leading causes of divorce – even if a child is conceived. And it is definitely one of the leading causes of stress for a couple who is afflicted by it.
Each man will receive a diagnostic evaluation and medical workup, a nutritional plan, acupuncture, and herbal formula if he chooses, to help heal any physical obstructions. We work with the men alone and as a group, the women alone and as a group, and the couples together.