Fertility Success and Failure Success is as dangerous as failure. Hope is as hollow as fear. What does it mean that success is as dangerous as failure? Whether you go up the ladder or down it, your position is shaky. When you stand with your two feet on the ground, you will always keep your balance. What does it mean that hope is as hollow as fear? Hope and fear are both phantoms that arise from thinking of the self. When we don't see the self as self, what do we have to fear? See the world as your self. Have faith in the way things are. Love the world as your self; then you can care for all things. - Tao te Ching
What constitutes success in your mind - the ability to become pregnant? Give birth to your own biological child? What if you achieve this success? Will your heart be satisfied? No. When your mind’s satisfaction comes from achieving a goal, it will need to be maintained. A past retreat participant recently confessed, “My children did not cure my infertility.”
Another woman at our last retreat lost a child, had a child, and now is desiring another. She acknowledged how much she was stuck in fear – fear for losing the child she had, fear for not achieving success with this desire, fear that she would never overcome the loss that she experienced when she lost a child. She was living in the ambiguity between success and failure; hope and fear.
What if you don’t achieve your idea of success? Will you consider your path a failure?
I am often asked, “What is your success rate?” asking that my answer be confined to a percentage rate. Western medicine thrives on statistics. And yet, most of the women who I treat have already been told by Western medicine that their likelihood of success is less than 5%. We all look for hope in something solid and tangible, as if we could restrict how the future will present itself.
I consider the success rate of The Fertile Soul process to be over 99%. Although many of these successes are in the form of children, it is not confined to the birth of a child. When success is defined as the ability to open up to life in its highest form for you, you start to see the world as your very self and have faith in the way life comes through you. You begin to occupy the space where the most miraculous potential resides.